Energy Definition: a unique force within each of us that comes in differing amounts and flavors, draws us in different directions, and is required for making choices

Synonyms: feeling, emotion, spirit, chi

Added context from Hanna & Lizzie:

Energy is difficult to define, and various cultures and religions have defined it differently. We don’t claim to have a superior definition of this word, and we encourage you to call their energy source a soul, spirit, a biological machine comprised of a cocktail of adrenaline, cortisol, or anything else that feels fulfilling.

The important features of energy are that it is 1) limited, 2) cannot always be controlled, and 3) different actions & decisions can drain or fulfill energy for different people. Directed energy can be defined as effort, attention, or emotion.

Energy being limited will play into our discussions of reasonability when it comes to being intentional and making choices. No one can be intentional about every single aspect of their lives. Indeed, norms often serve the valuable purpose of allowing people to somewhat thoughtlessly accept a particular behavior, which preserves their energy to be used in other places. However, to our third point on energy, sometimes performing a norm can actually be draining on our energy. If a norm feels inauthentic, inefficient, or simply doesn’t bring someone joy, it may be better for their energy to take an action outside the norm. This relates to our second point of energy: that it is somewhat outside our control. Many people who feel nonmonogamous by orientation may wish they could be contented with a monogamous relationship but simply cannot feel that way.